Hi all! It’s been awhile since I last posted. I’ve been on a summer hiatus. Life has been busy. Too busy. I’ve always been one who likes to feel in control through an organized home. But over the past year or so it has gone downhill. I’ve had way too many activities going on and my house has suffered. I’m sure we all get in that situation at times in our lives.
About 8 weeks ago I got sick and tired of the mess and not being able to find anything. I started researching YouTube for ways to organize. Then I stumbled across the audio book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo. Over a few days, I listened to it. The philosophy is to only keep what ‘sparks joy’. If it doesn’t give you pleasure anymore, discard it.
That made a lot of sense to me, so I tried using the method in my closet. Tons of stuff went out, and I was left with only a few items. But I love those items, and wear them often. I went shopping for new clothes recently and only purchased those that I truly loved. I didn’t let bargain prices tempt me into a purchase that I really didn’t care that much about. My closet is still pretty empty and I’m good with that.
Then I started looking at my life. There sure were a lot of activities in my life that I hated, but kept doing. I quit doing a lot of activities. They had become burdens. I decided to approach them by taking the time to judge at what point it goes from giving joy to becoming a painful burden. We all have things we have to do that don’t spark joy, such as going to work, paying bills, cleaning bathrooms. But we also bind ourselves up spending too much time doing activities that we feel we ‘should’ do.
For instance, you might like to go to the gym once a week for a quick walk around the track. But you know that you ‘should’ be walking 3 to 4 times a week, and doing more exercises, not to mention that you paid good money for the service. What happens is that you force yourself to go more often than you want to, until you get burned out and quit going at all. I say the heck with what you ‘should’ be doing. Just do an activity at the rate you want to. I always thought that if I got dressed and ready to go down to our subdivision pool, I should stay at least a couple of hours. Not anymore. The heat, the sun, and listening to kids fight and cry. A half hour is all I’m up for. I get a little workout, dry off in the sun a short bit, and I’m done. I enjoy it now and go more often. It went from a time consuming burden to a pleasure.
I’ve been working on this concept in other areas of my life. I dropped a lot of volunteering activities. I was using up way too much of my time to step in where no one else would. From this time forward I hope to add activities at a slower pace, and take the time to judge at what point it goes from giving joy to becoming a painful burden. You only live once, so why not spend your free time pleasurably?
Have you thought about Konmari-ing your life?